And I’m not saying you need to cross their name out of your little black book, but you may find yourself reconsidering just how much of your precious time and resources you’re willing to give to them if they aren’t someone who you can see adding value to your life for years to come. You aren’t going to align with everyone, and that’s fine. Because when the world is in the middle of an epidemic AND ramping up the fight against racial injustice, it suddenly makes it really clear who is on your team and who doesn’t really align.Įveryone has their own beliefs, but when you consider all the things in front of us right now, it makes it easier to see who is someone you can picture being in your life for the long haul. I was talking to one of my best girlfriends the other day and she mentioned how COVID has also made her re-examine her friendships. I think we can all agree that this universally difficult time has made us re-prioritize and reconsider our day-to-day, because we’ve had to. Flash-forward a few years and we’re suddenly finding ourselves in a once-in-a-generation scenario of sheltering in place during a global pandemic. I went through a couple years of being really bad at responding to texts and flaking on coffee dates. I admit it took me a minute to find my footing as a new mom and a friend to others. When you’re a wife, a mother and working full-time, that can take up all of your time, without leaving much for anything else. What motherhood taught me about friendships wasn’t that it’s harder to be friends with some people than others, but rather, I had to be more selective about where I wanted to spend my resources. Because, let’s be completely honest here, it’s much easier to balance friendships and motherhood when your friends also have kids. The birth of my son brought some friendships to a close and invited some new ones into my life as well. And I think we all know that the older you get, the busier life becomes.īut the ultimate game-changer in my friendships? Having a baby. But the point of this fact is that staying in touch was easier said than done when you were spread all around the country. You could only have Facebook with a college email! I know, I know, I’m ancient. See, I’m old enough to where social media was barely a thing when I graduated ??. When I graduated and friends began moving away for school, it was only natural that we lost touch. Because at that point in your life, your main priorities are to learn and have a good time. Which, when you’re a high school kid or in the early years of college, may be true. I always believed that the more friends you had, the better.
I can provide receipts in the form of notes being sent home from teachers. I was a very social butterfly growing up. I want to make an argument for having fewer friends. I’m curious how this post is going to be received, because I can feel the extroverts around the world screaming in protest through their computer screens.